Acceptance

Life is a weird tasting concoction....Misunderstandings, love, hatred, jealousy, affection, adulation, pacification, success, failures, vices, virtues and a few that you wont be able to define yourself even after you die. Basically the conundrum of life. Everyone has a unique understanding of things around and they are completely justified for how and what they think cz that completely depends on the place they come from, the situation and circumstances.
I do wonder despite all how we coexist individually with dissension within and around us even after expressing each of these feelings out loud. the law of physics established the fact that similar poles of a magnet do not attract but they never questioned the existence of the other. thats the law of nature and thats what we are told to learn everyday- Acceptance.We should be aware but not necessarily against something that does not fall in the same league as us. and thats how the concept of choice exists. we choose clothes, friends we make, colour we wear, food we eat, book we read.....it is the freedom of choice and acceptance of thoughts that helped the world exist even after the world wars. conflicts are imminent until we try to step into someone else's shoes and think.As i said everyone is right in his own respect based on the place that they come from. we should have the guts to accept our mistakes, shortcomings and exhilarate our success and strengths. it just makes gulping down the concoction easier. be true to yourself may be deny it to the world....be transparent to yourself than to another person....be the person to question yourself first than accusing another. Know who you are and the world will just be as you wish to see it.....

life is definitely wierd. gives you what you expected the least and takes away what you loved the most. but i must say it has its own charm. if it threw you into a labyrinth of problems......it also takes you to a point where you are so content that you just smile to yourself even when you are alone..... doing nothing.....
I am beginning afresh and it is a kind of thrill for me. :)

Rains for me :)

you sit by the windowslide
when it rains outside
the coffee is now hot
n the fingertips numb to knots
the leaves are damp n green
n there's a chill within
you stare the days behind
n you wish you could rewind
you smile to yourself n think
m standing on yet another brink
n you sigh until this sinks
the life would move on and the chill would subside
when you see the blue sky n the sun shining bright

change

change is constant and is not defined by good or bad...positive or negative......at the end of the day...its just a change to the world....but it makes difference when you go off to sleep feeling good about it.......thats where it makes a difference...
you learn things when you are keen to...you listen when you want to....you understand things when you wish to......no matter how hard you try to unfold, complexities barely desert you....it is just a part of life...and it should just be left to that......and see things ahead when they seem the most abstruse.....
it all depends on you if you want to see the world through a clear glass than or a blurred one.
i want to admit this....my complexities and uncertainties pertaining to it had literally blinded to the best things around me.....since things did not go fine lately....i tended to see things as not fine.......i was not like that so it was claustrophobic to be in it....i needed a change from not being myself....from not being fine with things that went wrong and that will go wrong...things always go wrong....you do not pass your entrance for the college you wanted so much to study...where you have to become the punching bag when you yourself need one.......listening when you wanted to be listened to......when you do not find peace with anything around you....and when you blame your fate for your miseries......

revelation is the word.....exactly ..thats what you need to be yourself again....be happy in things which are unpleasant.....cz the bottomline is that dwelling on the miseries never finds solution......
both the situations put the same question to you....HOW...only the frame of mind and hence the perspective is different......

Role Reversal

I am not a feminist and I certainly do not hate men. That would be a stupid thing to do .
But I like it today when I see women working, all on their own and when i see they have a life outside the world of "fulfilling others needs". When on my way to work i see women rushing to their work after probably sending their kids and husband away. I feel amazed, inspired and proud of my species .
My generation of people are unpopular for their notoriety of ideas and philosophies. There are lesser strings attached and we tend to customize our responsibilities as per our convenience. The women of my mother’s age inspire me because I see them at the same place as I am with no slack cut out for them. It must have been quite a struggle. The middle generation definitely bears the brunt for the convenience we have at our disposal.
Look around. You will get what am I trying to say?
We give example of women like Indra Nooyi, Pratibha Patil, Sheila Dixit, Kiran Bedi. These women are iconic and probably inspire million of young girls today. But I wonder how different these women are from the ones I have been talking about.
By drawing a parallel with the achievements of these women, has the Indian woman finally broken those invisible shackles?
This question speaks for itself........"invisible shackles"......of course women today are way past that time when sati was a pratha.....education for them did not exist.. ..they had to execute the defined roles in the house ......nothing more than that as we have been living in the male dominated society......
Things have changed and now women live in a society where men are liberally dominating but that edge still exists today. There cannot be a yes or no or may be for this question. The picture remains grey like most of the realistic things in life.
Here is the white picture.......if we look at Indra Nooyi and similar women making the headlines today.... we would definitely say that yeah women have broken the shackles ..........they are corporate executives, journalists, astronauts, actress, models and what not. They have a family and they have a greater liberty of customizing the responsibilities like I said. This is the no shackle picture.....where they exercise freedom in all forms.....

The black picture is taken from the lives of those girls in comparatively undeveloped cities of India, they are still living the same life. The difference being that they are now educated to execute those defined roles. In Rajasthan, a girl child is still killed and they are still married minors.

Here is the grey picture...which I feel actually exists for the majority. Here women can exercise their freedom only if they can juggle it with their traditional duties. Not much has changed for a man in this male dominated society in fact it has become more convenient as women can assist them financially in building a household. It is not a sole but a shared responsibility for a man. Women in turn, took up added responsibilities to be where they are today….even the ones in the forbes list.

tug of war

show me the light
hope am fighting it right
i know things cannot be this tough
it's just the phase thats rough
life is nt this unless we complicate it
if that is so....then be it

i am standing here and i would'nt budge
let's see who gives in to this nudge
you have your own reasons, i have mine
let's not question us, till we are fine

open your eyes.......

Life is truly driven by your perspective and perception towards things. Failures and success affect you the way you want them to affect you. Well lofty words…people say it’s easier said than done… but i believe…there is always a possibility to see the silver lining even in the grey clouds. Unless you do that, you would never be able to tide over the tough times. The more you live in defiance and denial, the more difficult it becomes to let things go and start afresh.
“ leave no stone unturned”
“try n try until you succeed”
can only be implemented if you are in a receptive state of mind… that goes to say that you have tested your threshold of flexibility towards the changes in life. I think … the things that seem impossible at some stage…….will seem doable if our perspective or the way we see it changes. Most of us happen to see life exactly according to the situation we are put in ie we judge it by its happiness quotient.
…..Life unfolds itself in the most beautiful way……and beauty lies if you just go with the flow….i sometimes sit by myself to think…. Hadn’t it been for all these tough times…… we would have been deprived of so many emotions……these are the few things which take us closer to life……..
some of the best things in life happen just by chance, by luck and they happen when you plan them the least... that is what we call serendipity.......
i very often see myself sitting alone at mood food restless with hapless attempts to make things happen in my life. it had been my refuge for a while...........
there had been times when i was disappointed but there was always something in the air around that touched me up with life......... i could never lose hope..........
i have had the best of times here.....and worst of them too..........we have seen a lot of seasons together. sometimes i even wonder why do i love this rickety noisy place so much?????
I guess.....there is a familiarity even in the strangeness of the place and the people around....... and i knew this was a place where i could sit alone and i would still be surrounded with life.....

life’s on the grind……. there is a constant rush ………….there’s no time to breathe as there are needs to fulfill….. ….we tend to overlook or look through some of the best things in life just because we are too tied up to responsibilities, pressure of performance or else there are other pressing issues at hand.
No matter what!! We must always have time to smile over the good moments even in the worst days…..look at things which are better than the worse……should have the guts to call the glass half full than half empty……and should be able to say how close we are to our goal than to how far……
You know what the most fulfilling feeling is!!!
It is when you can go off to sleep being at peace and being happy about things in life….

There is something about Mumbai that intrigues and inspires me at the same time. People say that life is not easy in a city like Mumbai…………you got to have that survival instinct to be one and to be able to live there. I see it differently… it is one city which assimilates you, life at different levels and in different forms…..
I have been to Mumbai many times….there was this one time when I had gone for my interview to one of the colleges…it was a crucial juncture for me …the deciding point. I was nervous, restless, tensed, dazed and uncertain about most of the things. With all these things in mind I was sitting at nariman point. It is one place where you cannot hold on to negativity for long. The silence, the sea, the people and the air serenades calmness on you and you would be holding on to nothing but a smile on your face.

These personal insights of my life are of no relevance to the readers, all I mean to convey is that no matter how down you are in life….. there would always be something which would push you through such phases…… These are some of the best times in your life…when something completely unrelated to you can make you smile……things that can make you forget about your own problems………faces and people whose presence relieve those tensed folds on your forehead….friendly banters that can make you laugh your stomach out loud that too when you were sad and had tears in your eyes…….smiles of those close ones which silently assure you that things would be fine…….AND when the sucking sense of humor of your friends can make you laugh……
It is then you feel…..it’s just a part and parcel of life…….
Cheers to it!!....